There’s a Bob at every party. Someone convinced he’s a master of emotional intelligence, but blind to his own blind spots. The real irony? The more certain we are of our emotional savvy, the more likely we’re missing the mark. After years as a psychologist, I’ve learned that true emotional wisdom is quiet, humble, and always curious. The moment we start explaining our EQ to others is the moment we’ve become Bob ourselves.

Goals are Great – Until Life Takes a Detour

Life doesn’t always go as planned. Goals can crumble when unexpected challenges arise, leaving us feeling lost. But what keeps us grounded during these detours? Our values. Unlike goals, values remain constant and give us purpose, even in tough times.

This piece explores how aligning your goals with your core values helps you stay resilient when life takes an unexpected turn. By reframing setbacks as "Pivot Sparks," you can see challenges as opportunities for growth. When your goals are driven by what truly matters, every step—planned or not—adds meaning to your journey.

Imagine your eight-year-old self looking at you now. Would they beam with pride at the realization of long-held dreams? Or would they wonder where the adventurous spirit and wild imagination had gone? Would they recognize the core of who they are in the adult you've become?

This article offers some tips to finding your way back to what you really love.